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Is Death bad for you?

(1) Something can be bad for you only if you exist
Existence requirement: 
Modest -----> if you existed sometimes or the other
Bold -----> if you existed at the same time as that thing that is bad for you

(2) When you are dead you do not exist only

(3) Death can not be bad for you only 

“Men are anxious about death and their fate after death; but consider, it is not at all strange, Ananda, that a human being should die.”


Sunday Chicken

2 tbsp. lemon juice
2 tbsp. orange juice
3 tbsp. oil
1/2 tsp. salt
1/4 tsp. pepper
1 egg yolk

1 medium size chicken

200 gram spinach 
100 gram quinoa 

Preheat oven to 250 degrees. Arrange chicken in a shallow baking dish. Combine ingredients and pour over chicken, make sure that all chicken surface is covered. If you have time marinate the chicken for about 20 min in the prepared mix. Cover and bake 20 minutes, 250 degrees. Cover and bake 20 minutes, 150 degrees.Uncover and cook additional 15 minutes or until brown.

Alternatively you can add onion in the backing dish. It will add extra flavor to the chicken.

Serve quinoa and spinach. Cook quinoa 10 min, add gravy from chicken, and mix with  spinach. 

I am going to try it in just 5 min :) 

There Is No Death

There Is No Death

  There is no death. The stars go down
   To rise upon another shore,
And bright in heaven's jeweled crown
   They shine forevermore.

There is no death. The forest leaves
   Convert to life the viewless air;
The rocks disorganize to feed
   The hungry moss they bear.

There is no death. The dust we tread
   Shall change beneath the summer showers
To golden grain or mellow fruit,
   Or rainbow tinted flowers.

There is no death. The leaves may fall,
   The flowers may fade and pass away--
They only wait through wintry hours
   The warm, sweet breath of May.

There is no death, although we grieve
   When beautiful familiar forms
That we have learned to love are torn
   From our embracing arms.

Although with bowed and breaking heart.
   With sable garb and silent tread,
We bear their senseless dust to rest,
   And say that they are dead--

They are not dead. They have but passed
   Beyond the mists that blind us here,
Into the new and larger life
   Of that serener sphere.

They have but dropped their robe of clay
   To put a shining raiment on;
They have not wandered far away,
   They are not "lost" or "gone."

Though unseen to the mortal eye,
   They still are here and love us yet;
The dear ones they have left behind
   They never do forget.

Sometimes upon our fevered brow
   We feel their touch, a breath of balm:
Our spirit sees them, and our hearts
   Grow comforted and calm.

Yes, ever near us, though unseen,
   Our dear, immortal spirits tread--
For all God's boundless Universe
   Is Life--there are no dead.

                        (By John McCreery)

15 psychology quotes

Posted November 7th, 2011 at 2:01PM

1. "We know what we are but not what we may be." Ophelia in Hamlet
2. "I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 things that do not work." Thomas Edison 1847-1931
3. "The brain is wider than the sky." Emily Dickinson (1830-1886)
4. "Great spirits have often overcome violent opposition from mediocre minds." Albert Einstein , (1879-1955)
5. "We are so made, that we can only derive intense enjoyment from a contrast and only very little from a state of things." Sigmund Freud (1856-1939)
6. "I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have." Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)
7. "Don't become a mere recorder of facts, but try to penetrate the mystery of their origin." Ivan Pavlov (1849-1936)
8. "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." William James (1842-1910)
9. "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." Shakespeare (Hamlet)
10. "Colorless green ideas sleep furiously." Noam Chomsky (1928- )
11. "Education survives when what has been learnt has been forgotten." B.F. Skinner (1904-1990)
12. "There is in every child at every stage a new miracle of vigorous unfolding." Erik Erikson (1902-1994)
13. "Much learning does not teach understanding." Heraclitus (544-483 B.C).
14. "The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far-reaching consequence of submission to authority." Stanley Milgram (1933-1984)
15. "We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools." Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968)

Some days just wasted

Today is one of those days, when I do nothing. Trying  to search for a movie and do not find any. Trying to write something and nothing is coming out, only strange thoughts. Trying to study, and just can not get out of bed.  I hate such days. They are a waste of life, but once in a while they happen. 

It is like a versus cycle: do not have time to meditate, do not have time to exercise today, I will do it tomorrow. and then at the end of the week emotional nothingness. I would like to have a solution, so I never feel like that again. 

Well, tomorrow will be a better day!

Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say!

Sarcasm in communication bites. And bite hurts. When you communicate to a person, for example your partner, with an open heart and get sarcasm in return it hurts. It is not a gentle way of communicating and it is not adding to the emotional bank account,  it withdraws from it.  
During the holidays I have experienced my partners' sarcastic way of looking at things. At first I was confused, by remarks that were directed to me and situations. It is quite confusing when on an ordinary question or suggestion you get a sarcastic remark. It is not pleasant at all! Happy holidays atmosphere was destroyed for sometime after such remarks.  
Stupid sarcasm makes me think: is it me who is not getting it, is it suppose to be funny, should I just pretend that it is funny, play stupid and smile. Intelligent  Sarcasm can be an ice breaker, however, it is an art to make it funny without cause another person discomfort.   It was a great learning point. Sarcasm used quite often to express emotions, to show domination  and  to vent frustration. It is one of the aggressive emotional tools to control or to hide ignorance.  

Well in any case it is quite a disappointing discovery for me.

Fear and health

Fear, doubt, worry come after human body in different was -> physical and spiritual. First coming sickness on a physical level, on top of that coming fear of death. Some coming worries, without any solution. Like that person gets into a versus cycle - worry -> fear -> sickness. It is getting sicker & sicker.

We are not dead, but alive. The sickness is in the body, you and body are not the same. The doctor can help the body, but mental healing is your responsibility. It is your choice, how heavy you will make it. By separating yourself from "me body", you can keep up the mood, and do not have any worries.

By definition time is neutral. You add addition, good/bad. First coming doubt, then fear as an addition. Fear is different from being afraid. Afraid, is now. Fear is related to the future. Many people afraid of the death. Death is certain for everyone, it the matter of time.

One should enjoy live now.  Fear is  connected to many, things: fear of loosing, dying … Fear is very often connected to condition: "IF".  IF I survive, what will happen, IF I do not survive, what will happen. IF something happens, IF not happens what to do.  

Do not feed your fear! Do not make it fed! If is not "possible" to get rid of fear, starve it down. Watch your own fear, position your fear, do not feed it. If you afraid of fear of the future, position it: " I will wait and see". If you should come in situation, when it comes true, have a plan to handle it. Keep your own position, not position of the fear.

Fear can happen in many different situation. You should find your own method to overcome it: what do I afraid of? What is an essence  of fear: is it in future, present, or past? You will get an answer follow this answer. Develop confidence, and trust your  answer/yourself.  No one has guarantee, that we will not get thick. But if it happens - what i do for myself? What doctor can do for me? You have responsibility to keep good health. Look behind fear and anxiety, to keep calm.

Practice to handle it anytime.  Select a fear. Is it connected to the past, present, future? Why do you have this fear?

I imagine  ball of light in heard chakra. What abilities do you have to overcome this fear? You have them!

If you think about "the demon" many times, it is the same as inviting "demon" to come over. Fear can move into panic. Who can help me? Than you ask 1 person, and the next one, but the 1st person you should ask - is yourself. Seek for inner answer! e.g. when you in love, you have inner answer. Look behind the fear to transform it from an elephant to a fly. 

I am stock

I am stock. So much questions are in my head about the existence, about the purpose live, about all those experiences that I have accumulated during my live. What to do with all the pain, worries, and fear? What to do with all the disturbing thoughts? The experiences that are in the past, which I keep on relieving again and again, in my head. Is it the reality?


There are 2 types of reality: physical and mental. The mental reality is as real as you can imagine it. It seems that it is impossible to contain more experiences, more thoughts when you are filled up. If stomach is full, you can not take more food. This is true also for feeling /emotions, for soul / brain.

What are you thinking about is what you will project in your reality. Your reality is only yours and you have control over it, as soon as you start controlling you thoughts. If you think that someone else controlling you thoughts, you might need a psychologist.  What are you reliving again and again you choose? Is it a happy times or you got stock in a misery? 

The past is in the past, leave it in the past. No need to invent a time machine our brain has the ability to go into the past, but no ability to change it.  It can be frustrating. The future can be tailored and changed, so focus on what you can change not what you can not. Take a minute to analyze what you can influence in your life.  Abscessing about things that you can not change will impact your life in the way you would not like.

The time has 2 points the  past, the future and time in between. The time in between is a preparation for the future, the time of joy. Do not miss it, do not let others to decide what is the best for you. You are the owner of your time and fate.

Through live we have good experiences and bad once. Experience, by nature, neither good nor bad. You give it a color, an emotional meaning. You  feel a pain, disappointment,  but experiences by itself is neutral.

If you live in reality and you are not satisfied, it means that you are not in control. The circumstances controlling you, your life.   Work with internal values are hard, but well paid at the end. It takes time to change the way of thinking, feeling and living . 

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Previous Posts
Is Death bad for you?, posted November 26th, 2012
Sunday Chicken, posted November 26th, 2012
There Is No Death, posted October 14th, 2012
15 psychology quotes, posted November 10th, 2011, 1 comment
Some days just wasted, posted October 8th, 2011, 2 comments
Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say!, posted September 28th, 2011, 2 comments
Fear and health, posted September 3rd, 2011, 1 comment
I am stock, posted August 25th, 2011, 3 comments

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